Friday, October 15th, 2010
"See life with the wife whom you love all the days of your . . . life" (Ecclesiastes 9:9)
Marriage partners need to have realistic expectations. One mate might note certain idiosyncrasies in the other and think, 'I can change him (or her).' With love and patience, you may be able to help your mate to make gradual improvement. Do not forget, though, that Jesus likened one who picks at another's minor failings to someone who sees a "straw" in his brother's eye but fails to notice a "rafter" in his own eye. Jesus urged us: "Stop judging that you may not be judged." (Matthew 7:1-5) This does not mean that serious flaws should be ignored. Robert, married nearly 40 years, said: "Being open and frank with each other and then being willing to accept valid observations may require marriage partners to make changes in their life." So, rather than fretting over the attributes you would like to see in your mate, learn to appreciate and enjoy the positive qualities that he or she has now.
(Watchtower issue: 9/15/08, 3:16)
FYI - the latest study edition of the Watchtower (which was just uploaded to the website), has a good article on this topic: "Respect Marriage As a Gift From God" ...
I was pretty shocked to hear a comment on CNN awhile back, that said Facebook alone has contributed to about 1-in-5 marriages ending! (as a result of people having extra-marital affairs with someone they met online, or leaving their current marriage mate to be with someone they dated in the past). And that's just ONE social network!