Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
"Mere oppression may make a wise one act crazy" (Ecclesiastes 7:7)
Even marriages of faithful servants of God can come under great stress. (2 Corinthians 2:11) But Jehovah enables us to cope with such stress. Yes, it can be done. The faithful man Job lost his livestock, his attendants, and his children. Yet, the Bible says: "In all this Job did not sin or ascribe anything improper to God." (Job 1:13-22) Job's wife, on the other hand, said to him: "Are you yet holding fast your integrity? Curse God and die!" (Job 2:9) Indeed, when tragedies or other difficult circumstances arise, the ensuing emotional turmoil can cause one to act irrationally. If your mate lashes out with hurtful words in response to hardship or "oppression," try to remain calm. Responding in kind might cause one or both of you to say something that will make the situation worse. (Psalm 37:8) So overlook any "wild talk" that might result from frustration or discouragement.—Job 6:3.
(Watchtower issue: 9/15/08, 3:14, 15)
Even though I don't typically associate this particular scripture with distressing situations in a marriage. (since on the surface, it seems more applicable to a person being oppressed and dominated by a powerful ruler or slave-driver, or someone confined to prison), but it makes alot of sense when you look at it from the standpoint of Job and his wife.
Because that period of time wasn't just terrible for Job, but it was probably even more terrible for his wife, since not only did she experience the loss of all her children who she had given birth to, as well as her attendants, physical possessions, and material security, but she also had to face the thought of losing her husband (on top of everything else), because the disease he had was so horrible that it would have seemed incurable.
Plus, she no doubt took on a care-taker role for her husband (who was now disabled), since pretty much everyone else bailed on them, according to the account. And Job's 3 friends, (who she was probably *counting on* for support and encouragement at her darkest hour), turned out to be "false comforters" who only added to her emotional burden.
The Bible doesn't mention anything about Job getting remarried after he finally regained health, so that indicates that his wife's behavior was the result of being under tremendous emotional strain...not due to being wicked or disloyal to God or her husband. And the evidence of that, is shown by the fact that God allowed her to experience all the blessings that Job was blessed with afterward.
So that's a great example showing how even a normally faithful person can feel so "oppressed" and burdened by overwhelming circumstances in life, that they may lash out with "crazy" or "wild talk" against their loved ones.