Wednesday, April 28th, 2010
"A threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two." (Ecclesiastes 4:12)
"Threefold cord" is a figurative expression. When this illustration is applied to marriage, it includes the husband and wife, the first two strands, who are intertwined with the central strand, Jehovah God. Being united with God gives a couple the spiritual strength to cope with problems, and it is the key to acheiving the greatest happiness in marriage. But what can a married couple do to ensure that their marriage is like such a threefold cord? The psalmist David sang: "To do your will, O my God, I have delighted, and your law is within my inward parts." (Psalm 40:8) Our love for God likewise moves us to serve him with a complete heart. Thus, both mates should cultivate a warm personal relationship with Jehovah and find delight in doing his will. Marriage mates should also strive to strengthen their partner's love for God.—Proverbs 27:17.
(Watchtower issue: 9/15/08, 3:5, 6)
This topic is so important...especially right now, since there seems to be an *enormous* problem in our society lately when it comes to marriage problems.
I happened to be watching Dr. Phil last night, on the topic: "Why Men Cheat" and it featured 'experts' (in the field of medical science and psychology/sociology) who gave their opinions about marital issues related to infidelity and lack of commitment to a relationship.
-Now although they provided interesting & enlightening details regarding the possible neurological and inherited genetic traits, which may contribute to a variety of negative behaviors that can damage a relationship (such as aggression, addiction, and impulse control problems)...they placed almost exclusive emphasis on the medical, psychological, and environmental factors, (which they believe places a person at higher "risk" of infidelity and disloyalty), while saying virtually nothing about the social, moral, and spiritual factors involved. -Which are at *the root* of the problem, and the source of the solution.
I felt like it left married couples with an overwhelming uneasiness about human nature, and a lack of confidence in the entire institution of marriage. Because they presented cheating as an almost "natural" behavior for men (based on scientific opinion that stems from the theory of evolution), which ignores the true nature of the issue...a lack of spiritual understanding of the fact that cheating is actually an "unnatural" behavior (due to inherited sin and imperfection) and is something that couples can effectively 'counteract' by having a strong spiritual foundation in their marriage...which would include making time to have a regular spiritual/study routine together, and avoiding explicit, pornographic material or anything that tends to minimize unfaithfulness to a spouse as 'acceptable' or 'normal' behavior.