Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
"By wisdom a household will be built up, and by discernment it will prove firmly established." (Proverbs 24:3)
Sometimes marriage unites two people who are from different cultural backgrounds. Here especially there is a need to communicate openly. Observing how your marriage mate talks with relatives can help you understand your spouse better. At times, it is not what is said but how it is conveyed that reveals a person’s inner thinking. And much may be learned from what is not said. (Proverbs 16:24; Colossians 4:6) Discernment is vital for happiness. When it comes to choosing hobbies and recreation, many have found it important to be flexible. Before marriage your spouse may have spent time in sports or other recreational pursuits. Would some adjustment now be appropriate? (1 Timothy 4:8) Understandably, a married couple need time so that they can pursue spiritual and other activities together.—Matthew 6:33.
(Watchtower issue: 03/15/08, 2:8, 9)
*There are so many real-life examples of couples who've been put through such extreme circumstances which most married couples will never have to experience, yet their relationship stayed 'solid' due to the fact that they maintained a close relationship with God. And these weren't just 'the usual' culprits that tend to put a strain on a marriage like severe economic problems or ongoing health issues. But things like outright opposition and persecution from family members and in-laws, harassment and ridicule from the local community, fines and restrictions from the authorities, and even long-term separation -having no contact with their children or with each other during periods of imprisonment (that's what many of the brothers and sisters went through in Italy when they were sent to prison, which is mentioned in the yearbook experience I'm gonna post today)
Yet the fact that there have been so many couples who've experienced such extreme hardships like these throughout their marriage, and still managed to maintain such a close bond, gives overwhelming proof that having a regular spiritual routine, and keeping God as 'the center' of your marriage, is the key to making it succeed over the longhaul.