Wednesday, November 11th, 2009
"The truly wise woman has built up her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands." (Proverbs 14:1)
Husband and wife need to be open with each other and realize that a lack of tenderness in intimate relations can lead to problems. (Philippians 2:3, 4; compare Matthew 7:12.) If differences exist, the Christian can usually improve matters by good conduct, kindness, and cooperation. (1 Peter 3:1, 2) Love for Jehovah and for one’s mate, combined with a yielding spirit, will help in this aspect of marriage. In other aspects too, the kind husband will treat his wife with respect. For example, he will take her feelings into account, even in small matters. One husband of 47 years admits: “I am still learning in this regard.” Christian wives are admonished to have deep respect for their husbands. (Ephesians 5:33) Speaking negatively about their husbands, highlighting their faults in front of others, hardly shows respect.
(Watchtower issue: 03/15/08, 2:14, 15)
*the recent lesson we studied in the Keep Yourselves In God's Love book, made a good point on pg 117 about how men and women have different needs in a marriage. Paragraph 17 says:
"Each mate needs to be ready to care for the special needs of the other. (Philippians 2:4) Paul wrote: "Let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband." Under divine inspiration, Paul saw that the man has a special need to sense his wife's deep respect for him. And the woman has a special need to feel loved by her husband. (Ephesians 5:21-33)"